Latest development about the Pinay and her child.
In my previous post…I said about “It’s her life, it’s her decision so she has to be ready for the coming consequences.” The consequences that I meant here is the result when I’m going to call the authority. I never mentioned this to you because I was still thinking of a better solution. A solution that would save the two of them.
I had been hoping that she would call me again yesterday. I was waiting and waiting til 2:00 A.M, but no call from her. Nakapag desisyon na akong tumawag sa Jugendamt para sabihin sa kanila ang tungkol sa kalagayan ng bata. But at the same time pinag-iisipan ko pa rin ang magiging resulta nito, dahil once I made the call…there’s no way back. It’s not that I’m afraid…pero ayaw ko lang na mangyayari na kukuhanin ng Jugendamt ang bata sa kanyang ina. Even if the mother is dumb and maybe careless…kailangan pa rin siya ng kanyang anak. Siya lang ang nag-iisang tao dito na related sa bata. Kaya kaninang umaga, napagpasyahan kong tawagan muna siya at baka sakaling mabago ko pa ang isip niya.
Our phone conversation:
Me: Good morning R. kumusta ka at ang bata?
R.: Mabuti naman, Beng may sasabihin ako sa yo.
Me: Listen R. hindi ako tumawag para makipagtsismisan sa iyo. Let me get straight to the point…are you really going to stick to your decision of staying there and wait til you get your permanent visa?
R.: Natatakot ako Beng na baka may masama siyang gawin sa amin kong iiwanan ko siya.
Beng: Ano? Sira ka pala eh…may ginawa na nga siyang masama sa inyo habang nandiyan kayo tapos…dios ko hoy gumising ka! You said muntik ng gahasain ng asawa mo ang bata…hihintayin mo pa ba na tuluyang may mangyari sa kanya? Kinuha mo siya doon sa mga magulang mo kaya panindigan mo rin ang responsibilidad mo sa anak mo dito. Alam mo, kaya ako tumawag dahil gusto kitang tanungin ulit…tatanggapin mo ba ang tulong na inaalok ko sa iyo o hindi? Dahil kong hindi, I am so very sorry mapipilitan akong tawagan ang Jugendamt. Kapakanan ng bata ang bibigyan ko ngayon ng konsiderasyon at hindi ikaw dahil ayaw mo. See, I just can’t sit here at home and do as if I know nothing. Naintindihan mo ba ako?
It took her awhile before she answered my question. She was crying and sobbing. I know it was hard for her to decide but she has no choice. Irgendwann im Leben mÃ¼ssen wir eine schwere Etscheidung treffen, ob wir das wollen oder nicht. Whether we like it or not…sometime in our life we must have to make a difficult decision. Hers is now.
To make the story short…I finally convinced her to move to the Women’s Shelter. I told her to move quick before her husband gets home from work. I instructed her to pack just their clothes, important documents and some toys that her daughter possess. All the rest of their belongings will be taken care by the social worker.
Now some of you might think or judge me as pakialamira at nanghihimasok sa buhay ng may buhay…but that’s okay, I can accept that. I’d rather be called that way than being hunted by my conscience when something happened to the child. I broke a marriage…but I save a young life. And that’s the only thing that counts. This Pinay will certainly recover from the emotional stress she is currently undergoing. But time heals everything! We adults can handle hardships that we encounter in life. Children are different…what they experienced now will affect to their future life and their being.
P.S I would like to thank everyone who has given me moral support. It helped me a lot 🙂