As The Journey Continues

It was Aug. 31, 2009 when I last posted my last entry here. I even promised to update once in awhile, pero ayon hindi rin natupad. I have less time than I thought, yeah it’s as simple as that. Life has changed since we moved here in Brandenburg and since hubby opened his own medical clinic. Nag changed ang takbo nang buhay ko dahil isa ako sa kanyang fulltime alalay doon. I have to learn a lot of things…with success naman sa awa ng Diyos. Pero it is a challenge talaga to work in a field na labag sa kalooban ko. Lalo na’t hindi ito related sa aking profession, so I’m having a lot of difficulties adjusting to this new role. In addition to that, hindi rin ako sanay na kasama ang asawa sa trabaho or ang asawa ko ang BOSS ko. The problem in the case of a spouse is the potential emotional boomerang. Usually what happens is, if it doesn’t work out, the employee leaves and you never see them again, di vah? But in this case, if it doesn’t work out, you go home and have dinner together. That’s where the problem lies. Infact, we got so consumed with our business relationship that we end up talking/arguing business all the time even at home. So there’s no escape from business at all. The first eight months was a nightmare!

So one day, I was so fed up, I left the clinic without saying a word. Hubby was angry of course, he called and asked me to come back. But all I said was “no I’m not and that we really have to talk when you come home”. Because of that talk, our relationship has flourished to heights that weren’t possible after we start the business. Our heart to heart talk was what made our relationship to what it is now versus what it was before. A hundred times better. Well anyways, concocting the ideal recipe to combine a thriving business and a successful marriage is not easy, especially when you work together, but it can be done with understanding and compromise.

I know that our business is very important but so our marriage and family too. Inspite of all the difficulties…I am still lucky to have a husband like my husband. Who listens to my litany of complaints, opinions and ramblings and takes my feelings into consideration. It was actually my mistake that I didn’t open my mouth and talk about what bothered me earlier ago. We closed this chapter of our life, but we are still working together in our business as TEAM. And we are also working on our marriage to keep the shine. We will keep working on our marriage and working through whatever challenges we would face in the future. There are no experts on marriage and it is not something we learn in a book. But something we must learn by doing over and over again…a practice we must adjust as our journey continues…

THE MAKEOVER

We went to Bali for our second honeymoon last Dec. 20 til Dec. 31. We stayed at Nikko Bali Hotel Resort and Spa in Nusa Dua for 10 days. Bali is lovely. It is one of the few places in the whole world that I would actually want to go back. There are stunning sunsets, sculpted rice terraces and a temple on almost every corner. And for less-spiritual seekers, this steamy Indonesian island also has great surfing and a rollicking night life.

Beng

Beng Hafner is my name. Well, most of you know that already. I am a mother of 3 and a granny of 3 cute kids. I am proud to be who I am and I am proud of the way I am. I am alive because I have a lot to live for. I have many dreams that I wish to reach for and I have many journeys to make. My life is like a soap opera, and you are the audience.

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19 Responses

  1. reyna elena says:

    nice pics! pwedeng pa-link? hahaha

    paki-update na rin nang blog ko hehehe, wala na akong panahon, ina-amag na ata yun hehehe hanggang ngayon bulkan pa nang mayon ang andun haha

    isang traysikel na lang ang Bali to Davao, dumaan kayo? indi ano? sya… mag-alay ka sa mga fairy godmother hehehe

    • Beng says:

      Hahahaha. Reynz, pareho lang pala tayo pero mas malala ang nangyari dito sa blog ko. Nabaon na sa alikabok. Hindi pala kami dumaan sa Davao. Masyadong maigsi ang time eh. Maybe this year makauwi ako…pagbutihin ko ang pag-alay kay Shiva at kong sino pang mga Hindu deity diyan para ako matuloy.

      Ano ba ang pinagkabisihan mo ngayon?

      • reyna elena says:

        ~sikwet ang pinagkakabisihan ko~ hehehe! nga pala best regards sa boylet mo, gwapo nya pala, now me mukha na dun sa puro na lang voice on the phone na naririnig ko haha me kapatid pa ba yan?

        • Beng says:

          ay sus ayaw pang sabihin saken. ibulong mo na lang mamaya sakaling magbago isip mo. hehehehe. oi nga pala huli ka naman talaga. nauna na si lord sa iyo tungkol sa kapatid nitong aking boylet. he was so young whe he died…car accident baga.

          tenks daw sa papuri mo. lumaki tuloy butas ng ilong niya, sa laki ba naman ng smile. harharhar.

  2. Hello ‘te Beng!

    Buti naman at balik blogging ka na uli.

    Well, ganyan talaga ang buhay mag-asawa, pag may problema, nagkakaroon ng solusyon pag pinag-uusapan. O di masaya ang nth honeymoon niyo. 🙂

    Welcome Back! Mukhang nag-enjoy ka talaga sa Bali a.
    .-= Sofie Hofmann´s last blog ..Golden Siam Thai Cuisine, Citygate, Tung Chung, Lantau Island, Hong Kong =-.

    • Beng says:

      oo nga eh, kaya lang minsan…umiiral pa rin saken ang ugaling pinay. yon bang nagmamaktol, kunyari tahimik pero galit pala. dapat talagang ibuka ang bibig para magkaliwanagan. divah?

      balik blog ako dahil kawawa naman kasi si lukaret site. nabaon na sa alikabok. sayang din ang binabayad ko dito. have a nice weekend sofie.

  3. nina says:

    so nice naman. i should put bali in my list of places to go to…malapit ba sa berlin ang bradenburg? puntahan kita pag nagawi ako? LOLs…

    Mahirap talaga kasama sa place of work ang bf/hubby. Ako dati lahat na lang ng ginagawa ko may nagpaparating. Tapos parang feeling pa nya ipinapahiya ko sya sa mga ginagawa ko. grrrr…..ganun pa man napangasawa ko.
    .-= nina´s last blog ..Welcoming 2010 =-.

    • Beng says:

      Talagang maganda ang Bali Nina. It’s worth visiting :). Brandenburg is near Berlin kaya hali ka na dito. Itaon mo lang na spring or summer dahil mas magandang mamasyal.

      Hahahaha, nagkatuluyan din pala kayo inspite na nagkaroon kayo ng differences sa trabaho. Well, yan ang tinatawag na true love, di ba?

  4. atinnapotpot says:

    hallush, ‘te! long time, long time! buti naman at bumalik ka dito, ako tinanggal ko na lang muna blog ko at ang daming tarbaho eh. wala bang mapaglalaruan na smilies dito? sensya na may pagka abnoy talaga ako eh hihihi ooopss sowwy. merry christamas and happy new year na rin.

    • Beng says:

      Atinapotpot, ano bang trabaho ang pinagkaabalahan mo ngayon? Paglalaba ba sa batis, pagwawalis ng bakod or busy ka kay mister mo? Wahahaha, djuks lang.

      Hay naku, ang smilies ay di ko pa na-activate kaya saka ka na muna maglaro. Belated Merry Christmas and Happy New Year din sa yo.

  5. Dansoy says:

    Another awesome work from my Mommy beng. Like the ambiance of this holy fantastic design mommy. hehe. Wow, unta maka uban me sunod. God bless mommy! Best Regards!
    .-= Dansoy´s last blog ..Hows the House? =-.

  6. Hi, Ms. Beng! Nice photos you got there especially the sunset and those with low-light condition.
    You haven’t had updated your blog for quite a a time. I’m glad I’ve seen you here again.
    Maayong gabii nimo diha and God bless…
    .-= dodong flores´s last blog ..Welcome 2010! =-.

  7. Hi, Ms. Beng! Nice photos you got there especially the sunset and those with low-light condition.
    You haven’t had updated your blog for quite a a time. I’m glad I’ve seen you here again.
    Maayong gabii nimo diha and God bless…

  8. Sabine Berge says:

    Hi Felomina,
    schön zu sehen, dass es dich noch gibt & dass du wohlauf bist! Viele verschneite Helau-Grüße aus Düsseldorf!

  9. Juanito says:

    Wow, ang ganda naman po Mam Beng ng pinunthan nyo lugar. nakakainlove naman po yun lugar na yan… sana po ako makapunta dyan :).
    .-= Juanito´s last blog ..Sony Cyber-Shot DSC-TX5 =-.

  10. aryton says:

    you have a chrmed life! what beuatiful destinations you visit !

  11. chuva says:

    Was this the time when we met in Davao early this year? OMG – – kaloka pala ang wafu ng husbandry. Ako rin, hirap na mag update ng blog. Has the art of blogging died na talaga? Remember kung gaano tayo kasaya nung araw? Haaayz. Buhay!

    Enjoy!!

  12. chuva says:

    Anak ng weather. 2010 pa pala ang post na ‘to lol. No read talaga ko. hahahaha!

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