If You Are An Eagle, Don’t Hang With Chicken

Lelet a non-blogger, newly met friend (internet) of mine left this as comment on my other site. I thought of publishing this here on Lukaret because I find her message really encouraging. And I also would like to share this to some friends in real life na ‘medyo’ nagulat or puzzled sa aking pagbabago.

Hello Beng,
I’m Glad to met you here..the other side of you. parang abot kamay ko lang ang Germany thru reading your site though parang nasa Butuan din ako…hihihi…Though I don’t know you much but for sure buotan ka day thru what i read in this pages. What more can I say…ayu-ayo din ha!

May this encourage you:

If there are people in your life that continually disappoint you, break promises, and stomp on your dreams, too judgmental, have different values and don’t have your back during difficult times…that is not a friend. Sometimes in life as you grow, your friends will either grow or go.

Remember what your elders used to say, “Birds of the same feather flock together.” If you’re an eagle, don’t hang around with chickens: Chickens Can’t Fly!

Take care always

Now let me relate a bit…

Sometimes in life as you grow, your friends will either grow or go.

There is truth in every word you have in here. I can relate dahil nadaanan ko ito. I grow and changed for the better and some friends are left behind dahil naging magkaiba na ang values namin sa buhay. To me values are those things that really matter to each of us … the ideas and beliefs we hold as special. Caring for others, for example, is a value; so is the freedom to express our opinions.

Speaking of “Freedom to express our opinions.” I would like to share some words of wisdom to some friends (again) who have trouble with accepting critic or opinion. I believe, that a constructive critic is made in order to help a person to become himself or herself into a better person, or, say, to become his or her work into a better one. And I know that criticism, however constructive, can be hard to take. Nonetheless, it’s imperative that you take it well, and even with grace and style. It’s about how you can improve on something, make some thing better. You must understand and accept this if you are to listen to what others have to say with an open mind and heart.

So here we go…
Honesty is a prerequisite to a friendship. There must be a willingness to speak the truth, and a willingness to hear the truth. Friends who do not care enough to confront may save themselves a little awkwardness in the present but will end up losing their friendships in the future.

And as the saying goes…
Remember what your elders used to say, “Birds of the same feather flock together.”

Individuals of like character, taste, or background (tend to stay together). Or People of the same (usually, unscrupulous) character associate with one another, as do birds of the same species. The birds will resort unto their like, so will truth return unto them that practise in her.

I love this part very much!
If you’re an eagle, don’t hang around with chickens. Chickens Can’t Fly!
Hehehe, ganun ba yon? Though, chicken can fly din di ba? Hindi nga lang ganun kataas sa lipad ng agila.

This part actually belongs to the quote Lelet left on my comment box, hindi niya lang ito idinagdag. I found it somewhere else.
Over the years my phone book has changed because I changed for the better. At first you think you’re going to be alone, but after a while new people show up in your life that make your life so much sweeter and easier to endure.



Beng Hafner is my name. Well, most of you know that already. I am a mother of 3 and a granny of 3 cute kids. I am proud to be who I am and I am proud of the way I am. I am alive because I have a lot to live for. I have many dreams that I wish to reach for and I have many journeys to make. My life is like a soap opera, and you are the audience.

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7 Responses

  1. Hello ‘te Beng!

    Very encouraging indeed!

    All I can is that, I’m glad that I have met you too!

    Have a very nice week my dear!

  2. kengkay says:

    chicken have wings na pang barbecue 😀 kapag may mga nag iiwan ng magagandang comments sa blog, nakakataba talaga ng puso pero bakit kaya pati bilbil ko nadadagdagan rin, hehehe. how are you, beautiful lady?

  3. K says:

    Nice quotation.

    Just remember, we are not chickens, we are eagles.

    Sometimes I think I am a chihuahua trying to be a tiger too. 🙂

  4. sha says:

    langga… i love you…. xxx

  5. Gemma says:

    Hi Ms.Beng,

    Gd day! like lelet,i am also ur avid fan,love reading ur blog over and over again,though i am not a blogger but reading ur blog makes me think twice of having my own hehehe,bisaya pud ko,taga MANGAGOY,BISLIG CITY ambot lang ug nakadungog ka ana nga place since duol duol ra sila sa butuan…

    I like ur blog so much kay u write well and its very inspirational and very educational pud,keep up the good work dhay..

    Yap,frnds come and go,but nawala man sila,in ur case YOU MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THEIR LIFE and thats priceless,the reward from heaven is unfolded,so continue to be what you are and continue to touch people hearts..

    Diri na lang ko kutob hehehe,i am ur fan pala sine last year ug karon pa ko nagsulat after reading ur post about sa davao ug butuan trip nimo,i miss home na pud ug i miss sinugba ug kinilaw na plus naa pa jud kinutil hehehe..naa ko diri sa bulacan na nag stay,naa pud me gamay nga negosyo mga baktin hehehe..gikan pud ko gawas unya karon pahuway sa kadali,its time for us to have fun na after working abroad for so long hehehe..

    Pag ayo ayo diha permi…mga smart,buotan ug gwapa pa jud ang mga bisaya noh hehehe….

    I found a friend in you….


  6. lelet1322 says:

    Hi Beng,

    Thank you for posting here the messages i sent you…though its not really mine but the quotes really enlighten us and it applies to our own life about friendship…we have to remember friends come and go…but the real and true one are very rare and hard to find.

    Musta ka man denha sa ato…ang beauty nimo ba basig pabilad ka na masyado sa araw noh! baka madaot na day… ayo-ayo denha at sana hindi maulan kasi sinasabi ng ‘pag-asa’ may bagyo sa area dyan…

    Life is too short to be wasted, enjoy to the fullest with your family while we still can…

    take care

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