Begging To Survive

Every now and then, may iba’t-ibang mga tao o grupo ang namamalimos sa amin. Minsan may grupong nanghaharana kunyari and after wards may iaabot silang papel where it is written na sila kuno ay kasali sa isang charity group. I gave them some few Pesos one time dahil gusto kong makatulong kahit papaano. Just after a week, they came back and want to have some donation again. I refused this time, dahil medyo nagduda na ako sa kanilang pakulo. There are also times na may mga batang nanghihingi ng leftovers o “lamaw” (as we call it in Bisaya) para daw ipapakain sa kanilang baboy. After several times of giving them our leftovers, a bit later…hindi lang ito ang hinihingi nila kundi pati pagkain na rin. Dahil nga naman nakakaawa, pinagbigyan ko. Naging ganun na lagi ang nangyayari tuwing dumadaan sila dito sa amin. I became annoyed dahil nakita kong namihasa na sila. Kaya nung huli ko silang binigyan, I told them that this will be the last time I am giving them food. Hindi sa pandadamot, pero ayokong makasanayan nang mga bata na lagi nalang manghingi. Gusto ko lang na magkaroon sila nang kaunting hiya para sa kanilang sarili as well as dignity. Well anyway, that is what I told them…but I am not sure kong naintindihan nila ang ipinaliwanag ko sa kanila.

Yesterday around past 10:00 A.M, my nephew was playing with Gillian outside our terrace as I heard someone begging for some money (I was in the kitchen that time). My nephew said that he can’t help him and urged him to leave. Few minutes later, I peeped out the window to see if he’s gone. He was still there and I figured out that the voice I heard belongs to a very old man. Who looks so fragile and walking slowly with his self-made walking stick. My heart wrenched as I watched him.

Imagine, an old sickly man walking under the heat of the sun. Begging for some money in order to survive. And I am in my shady, comfortable house. This is where my guilt started. I ran fast to the gate, I called him and waved him to come back. I went to the kitchen, took a plastic bag and put one loaf of bread and a pack of Tocino (cured meat) in it. I also took some cash from my wallet and gave it to the old man. He looked at me and said twice “salamat sa Diyos” (thanks God), then he left.

I did not know that Kathleen was already awake and was watching us the whole time. Sinalubong niya ako sa pinto and asked me bakit ko yon ginawa? She was just wondering because I once told her na ayaw ko nang mamigay sakaling may mamalimos ulit sa amin. I explained to her na iba ang sitwasyong ito dahil matandang nakakaawa ang nanghingi ng tulong. There is always an exemption, I said. I also told her na what if ako yong tao? Isang matandang uugod-ugod, may sakit at wala ni isang kamag-anak or walang kamag-anak na tumutulong. Gutom na naglalakad sa init para magpalimos para may makain. Kaya mo ba akong talikuran at tikisin? Kaya ba nang budhi mong hindi pansinin ang tindi nang aking pangangailangan? There were tears in her eyes as she answered me NO.

A little help from us means big help to those who are in need. Yon nga lang, you have to choose whom you give because there are also abusers and pretenders among them.

QUOTE OF THE DAY

In helping others, we shall help ourselves, for whatever good we give out completes the circle and comes back to us.

Beng

Beng Hafner is my name. Well, most of you know that already. I am a mother of 3 and a granny of 3 cute kids. I am proud to be who I am and I am proud of the way I am. I am alive because I have a lot to live for. I have many dreams that I wish to reach for and I have many journeys to make. My life is like a soap opera, and you are the audience.

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28 Responses

  1. reyna elena says:

    yeap! i remember that!

    we were walking along Sta Ana wharf when one badjao kid came up to us at yon nga wag give at batalyon ang darating. well, anofanga ba! eh di dinumog tayo! hahahaha!

    i feel the same way. as in haller in philadelphia, nag-dyi-dyim pa ata tong mga panhandlers here! and i don’t give any dahil alam ko daming programs ang city sa homeless and everything.

    • Beng says:

      yeah, the badjao kids na super maligalig. alam mo, sa germany ay may mga beggars din na nag house-to-house. mostly they are from gypsies from romania. meron ding mga homeless na nagtatambay sa sidewalk at namamalimos para pambili nang whiskey or whatever inumin na nakakawindang.

      hindi ko sila binibigyan dahil mahuhulog na parang sinusuportahan ko pa ang kanilang pagka alcoholic.

  2. scart says:

    awwww ate bheng tunay ka ngang mabait na tao kasi mararamdaman mo kung sino talaga ang nangangailangan. pero tama yan ingat din sa mga pretenders and abuser dyan pa naman sa pinas ginagawang negosyo yan. well madalas lang yan mangyari sa Manila. wala siguro sa mindanao meron man pero yung mga taga bundok na bumababa para makipag-trade ng gamit. na-encounter mo na yun ate bheng? yun mga nagdadala ng manok na buhay tapos trade nila sa mga lumang damit πŸ™‚

    • Beng says:

      yang binanggit mong ginagawang negosyo ay sindikato yan. i heard about that long long time ago. tungkol naman sa mga tega bundokins na bumababa para makipag trade-in. hmmn, hindi ko pa yan naexperience. gusto ko yan at may idea na ako kong ano ang gagawin. i will buy one sack ukay-ukay goods, tapos trade-in ko nang manokens or rice or bahala na kong ano ang bitbit nila mula sa itaas.

  3. Ting says:

    Mutien,

    di ko pa rin maintindihan. for good ka na ba diyan? mabuti naman kung ganoon para meron akong matitirhan pag uwi ko ng pilipinas.

    kidding aside, i know na ikaw ay maawain. naawa ka nga sa akin kaya iginawan mo pa ako ng template, di ba?

    nasalanta ba kayo ng bagyo?

    ingat sa mga luko-loko diyan. (ingat pala sila sa iyo.

    • Beng says:

      Maderrrrr what a surprise!!!! Long time no see/hear. Where have you been all the time? Pati site mo eh wala nang update since anno domini.

      Oo nandito kami sa Pinas for awhile. May inaasikaso lang akesh. Hehehe, yong tungkol pala sa template mo. It was not made out of awa naman ano kundi dahil gusto kitang gawan. O divah?

      Sa awa ni Lord, ang Davao ay hindi dinadatnan nang bagyo. Yan ang kagandahan sa lugar na ito. Pero oi, kawawa naman yong mga biktima ng bagyong Frank.

      ngehehe, ikaw talaga sira pa rin ever. oo na, dapat silang mag-ingat sa akin.

  4. kengkay says:

    nung asa batangas din kami, andaming badjao na tawag ng tawag sa amin. itong mga anak ko, awang awa. gustong bumili ng bumili dun sa mga nagbebenta, nung una pinagbibigyan ko pero nung dumalas na, aba naman, iba ng usapan yon. minsan alam nating kung kailangan talaga ng tulong at minsan dapat din nating malaman kung kelan hanggang duon na lang.

    • Beng says:

      wattt? umabot na ang mga badjao sa batangas? graveh noh? baka later on may badjao na rin sa karagatan ng states at germany πŸ˜‰ hanggang nordpol. hehehe

  5. chuvaness says:

    nakaka-antig naman manay. only shows that you have a golden heart! kaya God is blessing you with sooo much more! mwaaah mwaaahh…i am soo happy to have met someone like you here..seryos jud.

    come to think of it..ilang poysyente lang naman yun nga mga kinikita naten sa blogging diba. it’s really good to share…sabi nga…we make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give. i hope sana yung ibang mga bloggers jan who are earning sooo much more with their paid opps would learn to share their blessings too…(read: donate to chuvaness foundation, lol)

    haaay…sure na ba manay? oh well, i’ll see yah and the kids on August…treat ko kayo πŸ™‚

    …daug jud mi sa lotto wahahaha 700pesos LOL

    • Beng says:

      Hehehehe, talaga ka? Pag sure ba? Okay serious na…thank you very much djud. I am not sure if golden ba djud heart ko but I can’t help feeling awa sa mga taong kagaya nung matanda. Oy I am more than happy to have met you din. Kasi lagi mo akong pinapatawa, tapos ang sipag at ang bait mo pa and above all…ikaw ay tunay na tao :). O di va?

      hindi ko alam na may foundation ka pala? hahaha, o sige hayaan mo’t kong ako naman ang manalo sa lotto, half i-donate ko.

      pero oi, nanalo ka sa lotto? ay naku…nanalo din ako last friday, pero hindi lotto kundi sa last two. seven hundred din ang nakuha ko. bwahaha, pareho tayong sinuwerte ah.

      siyanga pala, oo sure na yon. nakahanda na ang lahat eh. magbabago lang siguro ang pasya ni papa g kapag mananalo kami nang jackpot sa lotto.

  6. K says:

    The Pinoy Charity hoax andito pa rin sa HK, same girls, same envelopes, same blah blah’s pero saan pupunta yung pera? I’m beginning to think that Charity groups are taking too advantage with the “disasters”, we send money online, but we never get a receipt, diba?

    Nakaka-inis, but true.

    I find it “okay” na hindi magbigay to beggars, if I’d do it all the time, parang you prolonged their mamalimos ways of life. I am a beggar myself, why would I be here in HK, work my ass off, help my family back and earn something just to survive?

    Sad, but true.

    Ay I had this incident, a woman was on a wheelchair, duguan-look with stain blood sa wound dressing, tulak tulak sya ng younger man (her son maybe). While walking across the zebra, she ask people for money, people give then a few hrs later, that same woman was standing next to me lining up to buy a cigarette sa 7-11.

    Funny, but true.

    • kengkay says:

      hay K, not funny but yeah, sad that this story is true all over the world. daming ganyan, dito sa alemanya yung beggars na ang lalaki ng katawan, may mga malalaking aso at sempre, they smoke din. sempre ang mahal yata ng yosi at pet food dito… ay ewan ko.

    • Beng says:

      Ibat’-iba ang gimmick nang mga tao ano para lang hugutin sa bulsa natin nang ganun kadali ang pinaghirapan nating pera? Pero alam mo K, yang tungkol sa charity hoax diyan sa HK is peanut lang compared to what UNICEF (Germany) did to the donations. I said small time kasi direct contact ang ginagawa nila para makakuha ng donation.

      Unicef
      Photo by Stern.De
      Whereas UNICEF in Germany, talagang milyones as in milyones ang natatanggap nila mula sa mga tao. Kasi may mga subscribers eh na nagbibigay monthly at meron pa silang mga mana na nakukuha from dead rich people. So what happened to the millions? Well, even the manager Dietrich Garlichs can not explain the inconsistencies.

      Mas masaklap di ba dahil UNICEF is one serious charity organization. Malaki ang tiwala nang mga tao tapos yan ang mangyayari.

      Sad isn’t it?

  7. dan says:

    wow! mommy i saw my site na. hehe. Thank you bery much mommy manang. I know its not totally done yet pero excited nako! hehe. Wala kabalo sa password mommy mag post unta ko.?? Salamay kaau mommy.

    • Beng says:

      hi dan,

      wala nimo nadawat ang text nga akong gipadala sa imo? I sent it last Monday. Kang kinsa man diay tong cellphone imong gigamit?

  8. bokbok says:

    hi bengski,
    enjoy naman ng life mo, ang aga ng karoling! pero bakit naman ang daming nanghihingi? siguro may nag-tip na uber rich ka! buti na lang kamo, rich na super kind pa! o di ba? alam mo, sa picture pa lang ni lolo, naawa na ko. kaya buti na lang nahabol mo pa siya.

    hey byutipul, i’ve been visiting your blog lately and kagaya ni Ting, di ko pa rin maintindihan… for good ka na ba dyan? di mo ba nami-miss ang alemanya? ang Lidl o Aldi? HAHA, dyuks lang!

    o sha, balik-balik na lang ako ha? ingatan ang byuti eh?

    • Beng says:

      Bokkkksss! Nice to see you again :). Miss you talaga, tutot yan!

      Hahaha, oo nga…no boring moments dito dahil may karoling sa gabi tapos sa araw naman ay madaming kumakatok sa bahay. Nagtatago na nga ako eh. Oy, magdilang anghel ka sana na magiging uber rich ako. Though kahit hindi uber basta’t may kaunting pera lang para pambili nang bigas okay na sa akin.

      Yong lolo ay talagang nakakaawa tingnan lalo na sa personal kasi super payat tapos paika-ika pang lumakad. Kong pwede ko lang ibigay ang taba ko sa kanya ay ginawa ko na para naman mabawasan ang pagkabilog ko.

      Regarding our stay here. Well…hindi pa ako 100% sure na mag for good na dito. Mukhang miss ko na kasi ang Aldi, Lidl, Plus, Norma at Penny Markt. Hehehehe…super mahal nang buhay dito sa Pinas and I felt like ewan pa. So let me just surprise you :).

      How are you doing Miss Biker? I miss our phone chika :). Take care din and hope to see again. Muahhhhs!

  9. Amor says:

    how touching naman ang post mo Ate Beng.

    May mga ganyan talaga na umaabuso sa paghingi, kung anu-ano sinasabi para maka panloko. Naku, nakaka sawa na yung ganyan. May nangyari kasi dati sa amin, heto maikuwento nga… haha!

    May kumatok sa amin na nanghihingi ng tulong, sabi nya pambili daw ng gamot ng anak nyang nasa PGH may hydrocephalus, binigay nya pa yung reseta at nag banggit pa ng room number sa PGH, so give naman ako.. After 1 week, bumalik ulit at sabi namatay na daw yung anak nya, naniwala naman ako.. naawa eh! So nagbigay na naman ako. After almost a month cguro bumalik na naman, sabi walang wala daw silang pera, kailangan nya daw pamasahe para sa pupuntahan nyang pag aaplyan ng work. Aba sobra na yun, ginawa na yta akong sugar mommy! Sabi ko last na yung ibibigay ko at ayaw ko na syang makita sa amin.

    Noong nandito ang husband ko, pumunta na naman yung mama. Ikinuwento ko na kay hubby kaya ayun pinagsabihan nya na wag ng pupuntan sa amin at pag pumunta pa sya, irereklamo na sya.

    Pero hindi naman lahat ay ganun, meron din talagang namamalimos dahil walang makain. Parang nase-sense mo na rin naman kung totoo yung sinasabi nila o hindi eh. Pag ganun, ibinibigay ko na lang ay noodles o sardinas…. o minsan sinasabi ko,” ay sori po wala si ma’am”. hehe!

    • Beng says:

      Amor, naku alam ko na nga bang super bait kang tao. Kitang-kita ko yan sa mga mata mo. Sobra-sobra ang tulong na ginawa mo doon sa taong hindi mo kakilala. At inabuso ka pa nito. May mga taong talagang kupal ano?

      Hindi bale Amor, ikaw ay pagpalain nang Diyos sa mga kabutihang nagawa mo. Ingat ka lang sa susunod.

  10. bluep says:

    I only give alms to old men and women and those who can be classified as real beggars. But when it comes to peeps that pretend as beggars, I have only flak to give them. Many times I’ve been approached by beggars na mas malakas pa sayo. mas maganda pa ang suot sayo. at dala dala ang mga anak pampaawa. I get angry when I see one. I always tell them to work and don’t drag the kids on the streets. I don’t believe that poverty is a social disease. It’s actually a personal disorder caused by laziness and timidity to become resourceful. Magtinda ka ng sagimis o banana cue sa kalye, you’ll earn more than begging. Heck you can even sell the darn bananas half the time of your galivanting hours. Pero ag nakakaita ako ng mga lolo at lola, ayoko tumingin. I just give them the money or food sabay ngiti then alis. Madali ako maawa. To tell you frankly, the soft side of this walking contradiction is being a cry baby in front of such scenario. Ayoko pa mandin ka nakikita na naiyak. hehe

    • Beng says:

      Bluep,

      Kanina lang may mag-asawang namalimos dito. They were younger than me. Sabi nila wala daw silang trabaho at anek-anek pang rason kong bakit sila humihingi nang limos. I only told them na wala akong pera sabay sara nang pinto.

      I don’t believe that poverty is a social disease. It’s actually a personal disorder caused by laziness and timidity to become resourceful.

      Absolutely right!

  11. dan says:

    sa ako toh klazmayt nga number mommy. hehe. wala nako nadawat. T-T

  12. dan says:

    mo text nalang ko sa imo mommy using my number para maka reply ka meh. ok ok.!

  13. Trulala says:

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  14. iamronel says:

    may ki2la po akong ganyan kunwari nama2limos tpos ktpos mki2ta mo sa sugalan..grrrrr
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  15. …you have to choose whom you give because there are also abusers and pretenders among them…
    That’s right, Ms. Beng. A lot of such kind of person passed here in our office. They have letters for solicitations. And they even have able-bodies.
    Thanx for sharing us some lesson, Ms. Beng… πŸ™‚

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